The notion of “normal” has its roots in the Latin term “normalis,” which refers to constructing something with a carpenter’s square. The term denotes a state of being that is perfectly aligned and conforms to a general pattern, thus placing the power of determining “normal” squarely in the hands of the carpenter. It is also used to describe something that is “typical” or “natural.”
In the field of medical science, normal is used to describe an ideal, natural, or perfect state where the organs of the body function properly. Social studies define normal as “traits that appear more commonly,” giving rise to the concept of an “average” person.
Throughout history, the concepts of “normal” and “average” have been used in various domains. Governments formulate policies that cater to the needs of the “average” person, educational systems are designed to suit the learning styles of individuals with “average” traits, and parents raise their children to meet the expectations of society.
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“Social studies define normal as “traits that appear more commonly,” giving rise to the concept of an “average” person.
Born developing “differently”
Autism Spectrum Disorder is a condition that stems from the way a child’s brain develops. These children are born experiencing the world differently. How they perceive, see, and feel is quite different from others. How they communicate is also different. They are unique beings. A person on the spectrum is ‘normal’ on their terms. They are ‘normal’ but do not fit the definition of ‘average’ because they are different and not common.
Individuals on the autism spectrum have difficulty fitting into a world that favours the “average.”. Most parents of children with autism are accustomed to “average” norms, which makes it challenging for them to understand their child’s experiences and communicate with them effectively. The traditions and institutions of society, such as religion, school, and other socialization activities, were created by and for “average” individuals, making it difficult for those who are “different” to find a place within society.
“A person on the spectrum is ‘normal’ on their terms. They are ‘normal’ but do not fit into the definition of ‘average’ because they are different and not common”.
Inclusivity is the key to embracing both the “different” and the “common” and making decisions that benefit both groups together. Inclusivity means seeing those who are “different” as an expression of divinity, just like those who are “typical,” and recognizing that they do not need to conform to the “average” to be valued members of society.
In our families, we must allow those who are “different” to express themselves without feeling the need to “fix” them to behave in an “average” way. Those around us should be empowered to accept and celebrate the differences in others without judgment.
As society advances, we must advocate for inclusivity, ensuring that all individuals, regardless of their developmental differences, can thrive. We must build infrastructure that accommodates different ways of perception and learning, create curricula that incorporate various learning styles, and provide recreational facilities that are inclusive of sensory stimulation and blocking. We must also develop technologies that allow for universal communication, even without words.
“In our families, we must allow those who are “different” to express themselves without feeling the need to “fix” them to behave in an “average” way. Those around us should be empowered to accept and celebrate the differences in others without judgment”.
We should recognize that those who do not develop in the same way as the majority of people are “normal” and only require assistance when it is necessary for their safety and security. We must celebrate our differences and allow each individual to shine in their own unique way. In doing so, we can create a society that values and embraces the diversity that individuals on the spectrum bring, recognizing that the “average” person is nothing but an illusion.